Yesterday, my husband and I went to the YMCA. I've been feeling bad and not like myself lately. I haven't run in over a month so I had no idea what to expect for my first run back. As usual...
Yesterday, my husband and I went to the YMCA. I’ve been feeling bad and not like myself lately. I haven’t run in over a month so I had no idea what to expect for my first run back. As usual though, after my run when Matt and I were leaving the Y, I said to him, “Guess how many miles I ran!”
The Guessing Game: a playful way to have a conversation and share fun news. Guess!
“Guess what I got on my math test!”
“Guess how much weight I lost!”
“Guess what a deal I got on this shirt!”
But how do you play this game? Well, I am glad you asked.
This is an important thing to know because inevitably in conversation with family and friends, the guessing game will come up. Zig Ziglar says that being great with people is the #1 skill to have in order to be successful. So if you want to be great with people, then you really need to know how to play this game correctly.
It has very specific rules, [rules I made up, mind you] but there is only one right way to play, and this is it.
First, let’s talk about the point of the game: to Surprise and Delight. Did you know that? It’s very important to understand the point in order to understand the rules.
No one runs up to you excitedly and starts sharing their news by saying “GUESS!…” if they don’t want to surprise and delight you. That is THE reason for the game.
So, with that in mind, your job then is to be easy to be surprised and delighted.
Next, here’s how you do that. It’s a very simple formula that makes surprise and delight easy.
If the answer is supposed to be HIGH, you guess MEDIUM-HIGH.
If the answer is supposed to be LOW, you guess MEDIUM-LOW.
It’s that simple.
Let’s use some examples.
Child: “Mom! Guess what I got on my math test!”
This answer is supposed to be high. The child would not come running in the kitchen to make you guess for a D, right? Let’s hope not. Your guess needs to be in the medium-high range. (Tip: Always consider what you know about the person. For example, if your child is terrible at math then you might guess lower to be safe.)
Your Answer: “85?”
This is a good guess. If you guess too low, such as 70 in this case, you would be insulting and lose credibility in the game. No good.
He responds: 93! I got an A! Can you believe it?!
On the other hand if you guess too high – say 97 for example – you would have rained on his parade and missed the entire point of the game which is to be surprised and delighted.
In this case, since you guessed well, you get to respond…
Way to go! I am so proud of you!
Surprise. Delight. He feels great. You feel great. The game went great. Win, win, win.
Let’s do a different example. You and a friend are talking…
Friend: Guess how much I got this blouse for!
The answer is supposed to be low; we don’t brag about overpaying for things, y’all.
Medium-low, well done.
Friend: $19! What a deal!
See how easy this is? This applies in every guessing game situation, ever.
However, I am sure many of you have been on the receiving end of people that don’t know how to play the game.
You say: Guess how much weight I’ve lost!
They say: 30 pounds?
You frown, get quiet, and eventually mumble, “No….just 8.”
The exact opposite happens. No surprise or delight, just disappointment and rainy parades.
(We all know these people. Do them a favor and send them this post.)
So for the sake of your relationships and just overall being awesome with people, use this as a guideline to play the guessing game well.
So how did Matt respond to me asking him to guess my miles? The answer will be high, but relative – taking into consideration what he knows about me: that I haven’t run in month and am out of shape.
He responded: Two?
Me: THREE! Boom! Not bad for a first run back!
Surprise, delight, fun, happiness and goodness.
And You’re Welcome.