There's hope in the chaos.
There's hope in the chaos.
August 27, 2015

How to Know That Things Are Okay

My son does the most amazing thing. Granted, I know that all babies do this, so that may make it seem a little less amazing to some people. But not to me, because of course, he’s mine. He’s done this...

How to Know That Things Are Okay

My son does the most amazing thing.

Granted, I know that all babies do this, so that may make it seem a little less amazing to some people. But not to me, because of course, he’s mine.

He’s done this for a long time, but I’ve noticed it more recently as he’s become much more aware of sounds, facial expressions and his surroundings. When something is happening around him that is new, different, loud or frightening, he looks at me.

Anytime he gets scared, he looks at me. 

When the mailman rings the doorbell and my dog goes ballistic, Carter gets scared and looks at me.

When a storm is rolling through and the lightning cracks and the thunder shakes all around us, he gets scared and looks at me.

When I drop a coffee cup and it lands on the kitchen floor with a startling thud, he gets scared looks at me.

Anytime something scares him, my son looks at me. When he looks at me, his eyes search my face for the answer to his question: “Is everything okay?”

“Is everything okay, Mom? Are we safe, Mom? Am I going to be alright, Mom? Have you got this under control, Mom?”

And the moment we lock eyes and I smile and assure him in a sweet, confident and happy tone that everything is going to be okay, all of his fears are swept away. His question is answered: I’ve got this—and most of all, I’ve got him.

This happened recently: The garbage truck made a loud banging noise outside, which then set my dog into a frenzy. Carter looked at me for assurance once again. As I picked him up and comforted him with my words, smile and embrace, I felt God say to me, “That’s how you know that things are okay, Christy. You don’t look at the scary things around you. You look at Me.”

I’m amazed every day at how much I learn about God by being Carter’s mom, but I knew this one was for more than just me.

It’s for all of us.

When the rug seems to be pulled out beneath you, when you feel like you’re hanging on by a thread, when you’re scared with fear cornering you from every angle—don’t look at the scary things around you. Instead, look at the face of the One who will smile and comfort you, the One who will pick you up, embrace you and remind you that it’s going to be okay, because He’s got this, and most of all, He’s got you.

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  • jen says:

    Thank you for this. I so needed to hear this right now as I prepare for a meeting with our school district about our teenage son with a lot of special needs. It seems some people take advantage of others when they sense fear. This is a perfectly timed reminder not to look at the fear and to look at my son who is looking to me to take care of him.

  • Dot says:

    Thank you so much for sharing Carter’s story : ) Reminds me of my granddaughter . . . which bring me back to the One that created both of them. Our God reigns! Looking into His eyes, the Prince of Peace melts all away. Thank you again, for sharing your heart.

  • Thanks for the reminder! I’ve got a little man (probably close in age to yours) who does the same thing, so I can totally relate. I need to make sure I focus on Him more each day. Life gets busy, but that’s not an excuse. Thanks!

  • Lauren says:

    Thank you for this beautiful post reminding us to focus on our Lord who comforts and protects!

  • Lesly says:

    Thank you so much for sharing. It brought tears to my eyes because God keeps reminding me of this in such loving, gentle ways. You’d think He would get tired of telling me and showing me the same thing over and over because I keep forgetting, or I let the scary things consume me. But He is there, gently reminding me how much He cares.

  • Annie says:

    Wow, the timing to the moment of reading this and our families current situation is such an amazing reminder of the sovereignty of God and His presence in the intricate details of my heart and mind. Thank you!

  • Lynette says:

    This is soooo true and I’m glad that you shared this.
    A few months ago, what I thought was a friendly flirtation with a passing stranger, quickly turned into a very uncomfortable, dangerous situation. When I realized that this guy was not as friendly as I thought and the turned ugly and dangerous, I immediately found myself silently saying to the Lord, “Okay, you see this right? Please give me the right words to get out of this”. As always, He was with me and I was able to walk away from danger and reported it immediately. After that, I found myself falling a little more in love with the Lord Jesus Christ.