The Truth About The Lies Fear Tells You
I’ll be honest with y’all. Sometimes lately, I’m scared out of my mind. Planning the Business Boutique event has brought to the surface countless insecurities, fears and doubts. I have voices in my head that say, “No one is going...
I’ll be honest with y’all. Sometimes lately, I’m scared out of my mind.
Planning the Business Boutique event has brought to the surface countless insecurities, fears and doubts. I have voices in my head that say, “No one is going to show up,” “They’re all going to leave so disappointed,” and “You aren’t good enough to do this.”
By the way, it’s amazing that no one is going to show up, and yet they are going to leave disappointed. I’m not sure exactly how both are possible.
But that’s what fear does. It lies.
Fear has an arsenal of threats to taunt you, worry you, scare you and paralyze you. All of them are terrifying—and none of them are true.
Sure, you may need a better plan, more time or a little help to accomplish what you’re working on. But fear never says that, does it? You never have voices in your head that keep you up at night and say in a friendly voice, “Hey rock star! You’re doing an amazing job! Remember you need to get some professional advice before you launch that project, but it’s going great so far!”
Maybe that happens to you, but that never happens to me. It’s always the worst-case scenarios, and they sound ridiculous when you say them out loud.
No one is going to come to the event? We sold out over 1,000 seats in six weeks!
They are going to leave disappointed? We built the entire event based on over two years of first-hand research. It’s exactly what these women want and need!
I’m not good enough to do it? It has nothing to do with being good enough or not. It has to do with who God called for this mission and this movement—and I am 100% certain that’s me.
Trust me, I don’t miss the irony. I am experiencing what these women are feeling every day as they build, launch and grow their side businesses.
But as I keep pushing forward toward my goal, I want to remind you of what God is reminding me. The only way to combat the lies that fear tells you is with the truth. Here’s the truth about your fears:
1. You’re scared because you might fail. What does that mean? Failure terrifies us because it’s elusive, subjective and abstract. The truth is that you might not meet your goal, you might hit a roadblock and you might disappoint someone. So what? That’s part of life. I’ve “failed.” But so has every successful person on the planet, so you and I are in good company. You can’t succeed unless you fail along the way.
“I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” –Michael Jordan
2. You’re scared because you’re doing something that matters. If what you were doing didn’t matter—if there wasn’t something on the line, a difference to be made, or lives to be changed—then there would be nothing to be afraid of. The enemy is after those that are out there doing something that matters. If he’s after you, that’s a good sign you’re on the right track.
3. You’re scared because you don’t think you’re good enough. What is enough, really? The imposter syndrome that we all experience plagues us like we have everyone fooled and we’re going to be found out. God said to me the other night, “Christy, you’re stressing out because you think this is your event to pull off. It’s not your event. It’s my event, and I will be the one to pull it off.” You can find incredible relief when you take your eyes off of your abilities and inadequacies, and instead look to the One who put the stars in the sky, the hairs on your head, and the dream in your heart.
I know it’s scary and terrifying at times. I know that putting yourself out there—your work, dreams and heart—can sometimes feel like taking your clothes off. I know that you don’t know how it’s all going to turn out. I know. I know because I am clinging to Scripture every day and putting one shaky foot in front of the other in this faith walk with you.
I don’t know how we will do it. But friends, I know that we will—not because of who we are, but because of who God is.
“The One who calls you is faithful, and He will do it.” 1 Thessalonians 5:24 (NIV)