October 22, 2015

When Your Plans Go Out the Window

If I’ve learned anything about having a child, it’s that all of your best-made plans seem to go flying out the window the moment you become a mom. You planned to go work out, and your baby gets sick. You...

If I’ve learned anything about having a child, it’s that all of your best-made plans seem to go flying out the window the moment you become a mom.

You planned to go work out, and your baby gets sick. You planned to clean the house, and your baby won’t let you put him down. You planned to go out to dinner, and your baby is inconsolable.

What made you successful before children (e.g., setting goals, making plans and scheduling activities) quickly starts to feel like Pinterest—a standard that’s impossible to meet!

I’m figuring this thing out as I go, just like you guys are. And I’ve tried a new approach recently that has helped me do the things I need and want to do, despite the fact that my plans rarely ever pan out.

I steal the moment.

Even though I’m very busy right now, there are still moments that open up like the sun shining through a cloudy day. Normally, I’d try to stay busy and shove one more thing in during that blessed gift of free time. Now I steal it for myself.

For example, I recently happened to get ready about 20 minutes before I had to leave for the airport. Instead of tacking on an errand or cramming something new into that space, I walked upstairs and lay down on the bed with my son. I cuddled with him for 20 glorious minutes before I had to go to the airport. I didn’t plan to do that, but when the opportunity arose, I stole the moment.

One day a couple of weeks ago, Matt texted me that he’d be home late from work. It was about 5:00, and that gave me an hour before he’d be home. Then we’d have to go about our usual nightly routine of cooking, cleaning, laundry, preparing bottles, and in my case, staying on top of my writing. I thought about trying to get a head start on cleaning, but it was a gorgeous day and I hadn’t run in weeks. I decided to put Carter in the jogging stroller, throw on my workout clothes, and head out for a run. I hadn’t planned to run that day. I hadn’t even considered the possibility actually. But when the time opened up, I stole the moment.

Plans can be a powerful tool to help you accomplish your goals. But if all of your plans seem to fall through the cracks like the Cheerios between your car seats, don’t worry. Because every now and then, one of your many commitments will get delayed or cancelled and you’ll have some blessed free time open up. Instead of crowbarring one more thing into that space, think about something you want to do but never seem to have enough time for. And then even if you didn’t plan on it, steal the moment.

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  • Melissa says:

    This is a great tip. I never thought of those short unexpected moments we can use for things we like to do. Thank you Christy!

  • Emma says:

    I just love your content, Christy! Your vigor for life inspires me, and I need that! I’m a happy wife and a Mom of a sweet 10-month-old little girl, Grace, and so I feel like I relate to you in many things things you write about. Keep writing and inspiring!!! (I have no clue how you do it all, but keep it up!) ?

  • Trinity says:

    Thank you so much Christy for your encouraging words! This is such great advice. I can really relate as I am a Mom to a 7 month old boy. I was a major planner and goal setter before he came along! Now I am having to switch gears and be more flexible. I find I am breaking up tasks into smaller segments instead of getting something done in one setting, which seems to help. Please keep these tips coming! You are inspirational!