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January 28, 2016

5 Things to Ask Yourself Before You Say Yes

I know why you’re so busy. It’s probably the same reason I’m so busy. It’s not because we have too much going on. It’s because we have the wrong things going on. We live in a world where you have...

5 Things to Ask Yourself Before You Say Yes

I know why you’re so busy. It’s probably the same reason I’m so busy.

It’s not because we have too much going on. It’s because we have the wrong things going on.

We live in a world where you have more options of good things, great things even, to get involved with and spend your time on. There is no shortage of awesome things to get into.

But while our options are infinite, our time is not. Our opportunities keep growing exponentially, and our time stays fixed at the exact same 24 hours in a day. So if you want to be less stressed, rushed and busy, you’ve got to figure out how to decide which of the endless exciting and awesome things you’re going to be a part of. How do you know when to say yes to something or when to stand your ground and say no?

If you’re like me, then you naturally want to say yes to everything! Next time you’re faced with a decision, ask yourself these five questions. They may help you realize that your best answer isn’t always a yes.

1. How will this affect my family? Your time is not just your time; it’s your family’s time too. How will this affect them?

2. Is this in line with my goals? Is this opportunity moving me toward the things I am actively working on in my life?

3. Does this compete with a higher priority? If it does, there may not be room for a yes this time.

4. Is this important? It may be good, worthy and important to someone else, but is this thing important to you?

5. Do I want to do it? Guess what? You get to ask yourself that! Do you want to do it? Because if you don’t, that’s a very strong case for saying no.

So the next time someone asks you to pick up extra work, volunteer at your church, bring food to your child’s school, attend an social event, or add anything new to your already full plate, ask yourself these five questions before saying yes. You may just find that even though it’s a good thing, it’s not the right thing for you.

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  1. Alycia O. says:

    Christy!!!!! You hit the nail on the head with this blog. So many women struggle with saying yes to things, when deep down we know we can’t. Then stress ourselves out because we feel overcommitted!!! Guilty.

  2. Tasha says:

    Right on. These questions are so important to keeping our boundaries in place. A great book along that line, is The Best Yes, by Lysa TerKeurst. It’s so important to spend our limited time doing things we really need/want to do.

  3. Adrian says:

    Awesome! Now I have a question! How do you decide between two jobs? In May, I will have to make this decision. I have my Bachelors in Visual Arts. I have a photography business on the side but it’s not taking off. (I live in a small town with others doing the same things without a degree. Photography is hard!) Anyways, I currently work two jobs. First one is at a high school as a library aide. (The pay is not great. I still live at home at age 31. I do love the hours. Done by 3:20) The other job is at a print shop. Where I use my degree (Designing business cards, wedding invitations ect..) but I’m more advance in the graphic design then the owners are. In May, the owners of the print shop would like me to work there full time (8-5 Monday – Friday) & drop the school job. I just don’t know what to do. I think I won’t have time to work on my photography if I takie a full time job. I also think Hey I can do a better job just doing graphic designs on my own. There is benefits with both jobs. Can you tell I’m stressed about this?? Any help would be great!