May 12, 2016

You’ll Find What You’re Looking For

A couple of weeks ago, I was reading a book in preparation for my small group Bible study. As I read the words on the page, I caught myself arguing with the author. That’s not me. I don’t do that....

You'll Find What You're Looking For

A couple of weeks ago, I was reading a book in preparation for my small group Bible study. As I read the words on the page, I caught myself arguing with the author.

That’s not me. I don’t do that. I can’t relate to this. The more I read, the more I argued, and the more I argued, the more I dismissed the next sentence before I even finished it.

Now, you’re thinking you know what happened next: I became deeply convicted and realized how awesome this content really was, and my life was forever changed!

No. That didn’t happen.

I didn’t connect with the majority of the content in that chapter. It wasn’t bad or wrong; it just wasn’t for me. But as I caught myself discrediting and dismissing the words before I even read them, I decided to stop myself and read it differently.

There is something in here for you, Christy. Find it.

I continued to read the words on the page from a new perspective. Instead of pressuring the book to prove itself to me, I approached the message from a place of humility, curiosity and eagerness to learn. I knew God had something in there for me, and instead of writing it off and missing it, I wanted to find it.

Then an amazing thing happened: I found it. I uncovered a rich message that resonated with my heart and led to a great conversation with my small group the following day. I didn’t falsely agree with something that wasn’t for me, but when I dug deeper, I found something good.

Sure, I could have written it off and given up. But that wouldn’t have served me or my small group in any way.

Of course, there are both “bad” and “good” parts to anything you may read.

For example, when I read Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg, I was challenged and inspired in many different ways. You can find thousands of women that rave about what a phenomenal book it is. But you can also find an equally large number of articles, reviews and opinions that say she missed the mark. It wasn’t for them, so the whole book was labeled “bad” or “wrong.”

I’ve experienced this in my own writing as well. I get some heart-warming comments and responses to my blogs, and I also get some pretty hateful ones. Some commenters are thankful because my articles resonate with them deeply, and others call me selfish, stupid and self-promoting.

If you look for the good in my writing, I bet you’ll find it. If you look for the things you disagree with, they are in there too.

And you know what? That’s true in every area of our lives. You’ll find what you’re looking for.

We so badly want to categorize and label everything in life. And if something doesn’t serve us how we expect it or in the time we expect it, we write the whole thing off. We’re consumers to the core, waiting to be impressed and pleased. And the moment we disagree by any degree, we dismiss the whole idea.

If you’re looking for perfect, you’re going to be disappointed. If you’re looking for a book or person or product or company that agrees with you 100% of the time, you will never find it. God is much too creative to make any one of our personalities, methods or styles the same.

So if you’re looking for something or someone you agree with in every way, you’re out of luck.

But if you go looking for good? It’s everywhere. Whatever you go looking for, you’ll find it.

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  • Excellent points. I think, though, we could also apply this to life in general, could we not? That is, if you know what it is you are looking to get out of life, then you will find results in those areas in which you search. If you are looking only for a well-paying job, then you will find that job through market research and not find the happiness that comes from doing what you love. Happiness matters more, and if you can define the goals around this ideal, you will find happiness and the fruits of your labors.

  • Dottie says:

    I like the little poster that is on the memo board in the advisors office . . . (“Be)lieve (the)re is (good) in the world.” But what you might not see, but it is there, it says in a different color of ink, using same – Be the good. Love it!!! Thank you for the reminder.

  • Dawn says:

    Hello, great article and I totally agree with you on this quote: But if you go looking for good? It’s everywhere. Whatever you go looking for, you’ll find it. We are conditioned as a society to look for the negative and bad things happening in the world… its easy to find something wrong or bad in a situation or person…. but it takes more courage and time to SEE THE GOOD! Keeping in Tune with Gods promises and direction leads us to the positives in life… I am a half glass full person!

  • Adriana says:

    This was very inspiring! It reminded me that I am “a work in progress” ! The Lord is not through with me! That thought, alone, fills me with hope, joy and excitement every day! God bless you!

  • Jennifer Haston says:

    Great post, Christy! I love how you told us about the frustrating part and that you very humanly worked through it- I have definitely found myself in a similar spot reading a book that did NOT speak to me, but I think it’s a GREAT reminder that there is a lesson in everything-